All people have beauty. I think that is an accepted fact. Another fact, people hate it when generalities are made. For example:
Women can’t drive
Black people can play sports
Men are controlled by their penises
We don’t like statements like that. However, some women can’t drive, some black people are great at sports, and there are quite a few men who are slaves to their dicks. Another truth…Fat women are not always seen as attactive. Beautiful maybe, but are men generally attracted to fat women????? You tell me.
Life has taught me that the answer is no. The fat women who are currently fat, single, (not those who are married and got married while skinny, and are now fat) and looking for love…only about 20% of them (who I know, I don’t know who you know) are dating.
People tell me all the time…men like women with meat on them, especially black men. Yes there are men with Big Girl fetishes…but…No woman wants a man to want them just because they are a BBW, or have long hair, or are thin, or rich. Women want to be loved because of who they are. I don’t want a man who likes big girls…I just want a man that finds me attractive. However, if I haven’t been hit on in a year…come on?????? You can preach to me about loving myself all you want. My reality and the reality around me give me cues about life and living. One thing that I know that I know that I know.
Being generally accepted as attractive by the opposite sex increases your dating options. I really don’t think you can argue with that. If you are a single black woman over the age of 25, you have to deal with a lot of competition for few eligible black men. Being attractive increases your odds of dating more…thus being exposed to more men who you may be able to have a meaningful relationship with.
Side note: You can be a BBW and meet men…I’m not saying you can’t. But the other point to this is that I love Fit, Muscular men who take care of their bodies. Men like these. These men usually want a woman who is also fit and takes care of her body…workouts and such. Are they wrong to have standards…women have standards too? If you want to attract some “eye candy”, you may want to be giving out eye candy. You dig??